Not JUST a click baity title
Despite the seriousness of the topic, this is going to be one of the shorter post.
This begins with one of the most embarrassingly dumb arguments I’ve ever been involved in. Somehow we got on the subject of the word “nigger” and her refusal to use the word even in the colloquial form. In short, my argument was it should be respected, but making it some sacred word gives it a power it doesnt deserve. Her argument was…well she didnt have one. She just told me that mine was incomplete and that I needed to do more reading. She couldnt recommend any reading, or explain why mine was incomplete. I asked how she hashed her opinion with her gleeful use of the word “cracker” and wishing white people death which was essentially a mainstay of her broadcasts. It was one of the moments I began to realize that there wasn’t much behind her surface level SJW affectation. Then she gave the response, “Are you trying to make me hate you?”. That was enough for me. The argument ends with us telling each other to fuck off.
If you need to take a break right now to come to terms with how amazing and healthy this relationship was I understand. Yeah. Take it all in.
At this point the cycle was pretty clear, usual after a couple of days she would be messaging me again so I didnt really worry about it. This time I just wasn’t sure I could trust what I was hearing from her and I was tired of feeling like I was doing something wrong without knowing how to fix it. Maybe there was some trauma that she wasn’t comfortable with telling me yet? To be perfectly honest it was starting to seem like Simi Dhillon was just an asshole who never really had any problems never learned how to be thankful, and never learned the importance of honesty, and respecting or caring for other people. I did not want to let myself believe that.
I found myself at a crossroads and did something dumb. I messaged her 2 best friends. Now I should point out that I *only* did this because Simi told me that they had great things to say about me because before we met me she was in a depression hardly leaving her room and she had returned back to normal. They attributed it (so I was told) to me.
Infact she had these things to say:
Where I went wrong:
I mean it started with good intentions. So I was able to send a few tasteful and respectable messages to one friend. But then as I was starting to think about all the shit that happened and really how fucked up Simi Dhillon was increasingly acting towards me I came to the conclusion that we probably were never going to speak again. So when I started messaging the other friend….well…I may or may not have divulged some secrets that Simi told me about her, as a sort of passive agressive fuck you.
No threats, not a single thing that could be inferred as a threat. I basically hinted at the fact that her mother cheated on her dad. It was a shitty thing to do I cant argue that.
But Simi Dhillon, A cunt, not to be outdone:
That’s right Simi Dhillon, a cunt called the feds on me because of….threats to disclose her photos/videos to family members? I didn’t even know who here family was at this point.
I certainly cant be upset at any response she had to me embarrassing her in front of her friend. I mean anything SHORT OF REPORTING A COMPLETELY FALSE CLAIM TO THE POLICE WHO THEN CONTACT MY LOCAL POLICE CREATING AN INTERNATIONAL INCIDENT AFFECTING BOTH MY FREEDOM AND ABILITY TO TRAVEL AND GIVEN THE TIME, POTENTIALLY MY LIFE.
To this day I dont know why this was the thing she made up instead of me messaging her friends and divulging the things I did – I could understand how that would be considered harassment. Why make something up?
I didn’t contact her I was fine with that, but of course within 48 hours who calls me? She begins to spin yarn about telling one friend that I called her a bitch (I didn’t) and the other friend getting mad that Simi didn’t tell her. Then one of the friends got mad about my message and it turned into her friends telling Simi she needed to end all contact with me, and change her chaturbate name. She also had these things to say
I was still very concerned about the lying and the calling the feds but again I chalked it up to some previous terrible relationship. By this time I had already spent a grand on hotel and airline tickets – initially purchased for her to come out here because she didn’t have a job that required her to be at a certain or a schedule. But after seeing how (ostensibly) close her friends were, I thought it best that I go there so she’s in a more comfortable environment. Plus, I just wanted to go back to London…
Another thing that bothered me was about 4 months later I attempted to contact the officer who sent me that notice. I told him that I wanted to know who to contact to protect myself in case this happens again (it did – more on that later). I also let him know that I had recorded video of her admitting to making it all up and blaming it on her friends. I let him know how much of a strain its been because she also called my work ( yup/! more on that later) and the feds a 2nd time. I also have video of her admitting to falsifying those reports and blaming it on her brother ( who I dont at all blame, I talked to him and he’s a good guy he just happened to not realize how deeply fucked up his sister is more on that later). He never responded.